Discovering Who You Are While Dating

The secret to finding a good partner is really just understanding the type of person you are and connecting with the type of person most compatible with you.

Questions you should be finding answers to include: How balanced is the energy you share? How in-tune are you with each other? Do your personal goals meet on the same path and are they projected to stay on that path? Do any of your morals or ethics align with one another's? Most importantly, can you communicate with one another effectively?

These questions can be tough to ask and are definitely difficult to address once you have invested in, let's say, that sexy new boo. That's why, it's important to investigate such questions as early as possible. I mean, early - early. Preferably, before the first kiss or sexual encounter.

As a dating coach and serial dater, I can remember a time when I too had no clue on what or who to look for when dating . It wasn't until I began dating with purpose that I started realizing who I was... and who I wasn't. However, this discovery didn't come overnight. It took quite a few poor decisions and sobering experiences to realize the most effective way to be successful at finding a partner was, first, finding me.

So, here is your challenge. Start dating you first. Go on these 3 dates.

1. Your 1st date should be with just you. This should be something fun and new. Try something you have never done before. Then, write about your experience. What did you do? How did it make you feel? Would you do it again? If you are in the Philadelphia area, I encourage you to check out our Millennium Connections events. We offer singles only events like karaoke and movie nights.

   
   

2. Have a dinner date with the closest people in your circle. Chat about how you met them. Ask them how they feel about you, and what they see in you to make them enjoy being around you. These traits are what make you special and you need to hear them. If you don't yet have a community, click here to get my book "15 Steps to Finding Love: A Woman's Journey". This book will guide you through building your community or "Circle of Support"

   
   

3. Your 3rd date will be with your younger self and your future self. I know this sounds a bit like a Science fiction movie but hear me out. Revisit the memories that made you hurt, rest in the experiences that gave you hope. reflect on the behaviors that followed you throughout life and then look to your future self for the possibilities. Create multiple options and set goals that your younger self dreamed about.

   
   

Dating can and will continue to be overwhelming and frustrating most of the time. And in some cases, down right dirty. However, as long as you know who you are, where you come from and where you are going. You will always be able to find your path .

Now tell me, what are you discovering about yourself as you search for your person

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